We frequently find ourselves in difficult situations and every person has ups and downs in life, due to stress, circumstances or just – life! As a child if I told my mother “It is isn’t fair!” Her standard response would be, “Life isn’t fair.” Today as an older person, I think that sums it all up rather nicely.
No one leads a perfect life. We all have our faults and we fall short of our own expectations and those of others from time to time. Add the unavoidable but unpleasant things that happen to us during the course of our lifetime in the backdrop of constant stress, the picture that emerges is indeed a depressing one.
But hey! Wise people know that it’s not what happens to you, but how you react to what happens to you that matters the most. So are you ready to be the artist who paints the picture of your own life? This puts things in a whole new perspective because the paintbrush is in your hand and you can add whatever colours you like to create a beautiful picture. When you learn to control the way you react to things, to take control of your life.
Here are a few tips that will help you remain positive despite stressful situations:
1. Positive Attitude
Adopt a positive approach to unpleasant situations. There is a silver lining to every cloud and it if you are optimistic enough, you will see it. Never use the word ‘problem to describe what is going wrong – use the word ‘situation’ instead. A situation is always regarded as something temporary, which is likely to change for the better in time.
2. Positive Thoughts
Try these best practices to cultivate positive thoughts:
- Don’t allow a situation to get the better of you – focus on how to resolve it
- Cancel out any negative thoughts in your mind
- Accept the inevitability of difficulties and consider them as a challenge
- Whatever you do in life, keep your thoughts, goals and dreams positive
3. Controlled Responses
There is a lot power in the practice of “taking a deep breath and counting to 10.” If fact, just think, if a situation can improve slightly in 10 counts, it surely must become better over time. So the bottom line is: don’t speak your mind on impulse – a controlled response after due contemplation will always make the strongest impact.
4. Learn from Negative Situations
Take an unpleasant situation as an opportunity to learn WHAT can go wrong, and HOW you can best deal with such scenarios. That way, you will end up controlling the situation instead of allowing the situation control you.
5. Admit to your Mistakes
No one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes some time or the other and there is no shame in admitting that you have done something wrong and apologizing for it. Sometimes, especially at work, not admitting a mistake can lead to some serious consequences, if that mistake has repercussions on the work front.
6. The Power of Meditation
You don’t have to be a bald monk sitting in the utter silence of a secluded cell to meditate. Here are some simple steps that you can do for just 10 minutes a day in a quiet room:
- Sit or lie in a comfortable position.
- Close your eyes
- Inhale and exhale naturally
- Focus your attention your breathing and consciously empty your mind of distracting thoughts.
Once you open your eyes, you will feel an inner peace which will work wonders at combating your stressful thoughts and you will start to think positively about how to make things better. Check out or Meditation Course for Busy People in the Modern World (it’s for beginner and intermediate levels, and all you need is 10-20mins per day).
8. Eat Healthy, Exercise Regularly and Sleep Well
A healthy diet backed up with regular exercise can really make you feel good and think positively about any difficulties that you may be going through. All this coupled with a good night’s sleep will equip you to deal with whatever crisis that you may come across.
Now, you will probably see for yourself that it isn’t that hard to become a positive-thinking and optimistic person. Just follow these simple tips to help you keep positive thinking despite the stress. Remember, optimists are always far more popular than pessimists. Which one do you want to be?